I'm in therapy but the meeting will most likely happen before my next appointment (and her answer to everything is to meditate). — Online Dater I have advice of comfort.• "[T]he thought of spending a couple of hours with someone ...
I've been chatting with someone online who I look forward to meeting but the anxiety persists. Make it clear you'll meet at X o'clock, but just a quick date because you have to be at Y by Z o'clock.• "What if he's weird? They're just better or worse at managing it.• "What if he thinks I'm weird? It's just a learning curve like any other.• "What if there's no chemistry? Prepare for the awkward phase by reading The Post, watching Sports Center or "30 for 30," and skimming People magazine for relatively safe topics of conversation.— Anonymous Preparation is calming, thanks.— Write to Carolyn Hax in care of The Providence Journal Features Department, 75 Fountain St., Providence, RI 02902, or email [email protected]
This wasn't the only relationship I knew that began online while two people were residing in different places.
Stephen, 31, put far more thought into his Ok Cupid settings than I did, determining he could handle 100 miles of driving and gas money, and seriously dated two women who lived over 50 miles away.
Rosemary, 27, befriended her boyfriend on Facebook through mutual friends before they confessed they had feelings for each other.
Dear Carolyn, I think online dating is a great idea in theory.
But I have anxiety and the thought of spending a couple of hours with someone I don't know is enough to give me the sweats.
Peter, 45, looked 75 miles and two hours away in Davis when he wasn't having luck in his home city of San Francisco.
Others have gotten into long-distance relationships online without even intending to.
She lived in Redlands, CA, while he lived in Brooklyn.