In that case, I offer the following advice: If you’re getting more messages than you can reply to, be more specific in your profile. Receiving that kind of message is like someone coming over and talking to you. But I understand it’s a numbers game, and he wants to be efficient by widening his scope.If you contact someone and haven't heard back in a week, it's OK to send a second e-mail.If someone is new to a site, his or her profile is often featured in the community and the person becomes inundated with e-mails."The amount of times that people are approached when they have photos is multitudes more than when they don't," says Gian Gonzaga, Ph D, e Harmony's senior director of research and development and head of e Harmony Labs. Leave behind group shots, which can make it confusing for other people to identify you, advises Spira, and choose a headshot in which you are smiling."Your primary photo should be all about you." She recommends posting between three to five photos only—any more and "it's as if you're already smothering your future partner." Also, be sure to include a shot where you can see your body.So, assume that your interest hasn't had time to open your message.But if there's silence after two e-mails, cut your losses and move on.6.
The shortest messages get the best response rate; the reply rate goes down as messages get longer.Exchanging two or three e-mails is a good way to get a sense of each other's personality.After that, have a phone conversation—trade cell phone numbers, never home numbers.While the pictures you post should be clear—giving the viewer an accurate glimpse of what you really look like—don't completely discount self-taken shots (the ones where you hold out your camera to take your own portrait).Ok Trends, the data-analysis blog for the dating website Ok Cupid.com, says that self-shot photos can actually be very effective in attracting partners, most likely because they are approachable, casual and make the viewer feel close to the subject—all good things! Your Profile Your goal should be to create an engaging profile that piques people's interest and makes them want to know more about you."If you play games and wait to get back to him, he may have already run off into the sunset with someone else," says Spira.