We're friends, not doctors, financial or legal professionals, and we're not "grief experts." But we are here, and we've been "there." I am not a kid anymore I am 66. I am not sure that I want to date yet but am thinking maybe in the next year or so.In the meantime I need a lot of help in HOW to date at my age.Most of my dates have been incredibly respectful around the issue, actually.What has been the biggest challenge for you as a widow who’s dating again?After a few years of solitude, she realized that she was ready to date again.We talked to her about her journey into the world of online dating.I knew I had to get out there and into the dating world or the time was going to slip away from me.There were the odd occasions where I had to overcome others’ views about widowhood, which often included some form of “you’re still hung up on your husband and I could never replace him,” which I always found annoying.
I had fallen into that married rut: still wearing my breast-feeding nightie to bed (my son was two at the time), buying my undies at Safeway, mom jeans, haircuts at Supercuts, etc. I will never allow myself to slide into complacency in whatever future relationship I find myself in.Please don't interpret anything you read here as medical, legal, or otherwise expert advice.Don't disregard any expert's advice or take any action as a result of what you read here.Especially because I was so conscious of behaving exactly in the opposite way towards the new person. I had very few current pictures of myself because my role as “mom” meant that I was always the photographer, so I wound up cropping a photo of myself standing beside my grandmother holding my infant son.I learned that dating men who had never been married or didn’t have kids didn’t really work for me. Someone who has no experience in that area doesn’t fully understand the implications that come along with being a lone parent. Not exactly the sexiest shot in the world, you know?Widowed Village connects peers with each other for friendship and sharing.