Though Golden has never personally used a dating app — she met her wonderful, adorable husband through friends 16 years ago — she advertises herself as an expert.
When JDate launched in the late ‘90s, she got a reputation in her social circle for being a savvy dating-profile writer.
What would be considered a violation in one marriage might be perfectly acceptable for another couple.
(No one should be perusing Tinder on the weekend, anyway, she said.A friend of mine confessed to me that she would spend two hours every night on Facebook chatting with an online buddy until she realized that was more time than she was spending with her husband. Do you feel the need to justify a very safe friendship? It's obvious to you and to your mate that the companionship is completely appropriate. If you are getting your intimacy needs met in an online relationship, or with a co-worker with whom you playfully banter, you might stop to ask yourself why. You need to focus on what you have and stop obsessing about what you don't." Friends, sisters and mothers can often identify the red flags before a person is willing to recognize them herself. The natural, or at least , thing to do is to find an attractive woman who will feed your ego and tell you that you're sexy, funny, smart and so on.However, you may very well be investing in an unsafe friendship if you are constantly wrestling with guilt or feel the need to rationalize. Be especially careful if you're sharing intimate sentiments with that person that you don't share with your husband, or if you feel like your online companion understands you in a way that your spouse doesn't. Pay attention if a good friend asks you why you are talking about this person so much, or if she says something like, "Wake up. Some folks may unconsciously seek out an admirer to get their spouse to take notice of them. There are healthier ways to increase your self-esteem and regain the power that you have lost in your own home.Since then, she has helped several friends find their matches online.She started charging for her services almost two years ago, when strangers began asking for her help.For example, I know a woman who recently asked her husband to either give her his Facebook password or close out his account after she found an email that he had sent to a former classmate that she found to be rather suggestive.