Although they seldom missed church, and no one who knew them would have guessed it, isolation had firmly entrenched itself in their marriage.Had this couple not attended a Family Life Weekend to Remember® getaway, their marriage might have continued its spiral farther into isolation and, ultimately, divorce.She felt alone and apprehensive about their new life together; he felt puzzled that their conversation had dried up so quickly. She took a demanding job, and he was promoted in his. Later, when she returned to her job, she adjusted her hours to maximize her time with the baby. Their marriage wore down under the draining influence of isolation. He would quickly deny it or say, "When this phase in our lives passes, things will get better." Because their frequent spats became increasingly painful, each retreated and learned to feel safe that way.Busyness and fatigue set in as they moved into the stream of everyday life. Both realized that life was smoother when they wore their masks, and they played the marriage game as if there wasn't anything wrong.Like a terminal virus, isolation invades your marriage silently, slowly, and painlessly at first.By the time you become aware of its insidious effects, it can be too late. " "Oh," our 10-year-old replied, "that's when somebody excludes you." Ashley's answer is a profound observation on human relationships.
Isolation has reached epidemic proportions in the most intimate of human relationships.
You can share a bed, eat at the same dinner table, watch the same TV, share the same checking account, and parent the same children—and still be alone. In many ways their story is typical of many others.
This couple enjoyed dating and were married in their early twenties.
Isolation has been shown to be the central agent in the development of depression, paranoia, schizophrenia, rape, suicide, and mass murder …
The devil's strategy for our times is to trivialize human existence and to isolate us from one another while creating the delusion that the reasons are time pressures, work demands, or economic anxieties." I believe that isolation is Satan's chief strategy for destroying marriage.
Unmet needs indicate the presence of isolation in a marriage, and slipping into a state of isolation may to offer protection and self-preservation.