But just because a woman is post-menopausal, does she automatically lose interest? So here’s the big reveal: After 50, we’re at a sexual crossroads, and need to make a choice: We could go through menopause, shut down that part of ourselves, lock the door and throw away the key.Or we could embrace this new life with a sense of freedom and fun – no more periods, no more worries about getting pregnant, no more doing it because there has to be a result.Baby boomers came of age during the sexual revolution. A recent AARP survey showed that 71% of baby boomers believe that sex is still a significant aspect of their lives.So, its no surprise that sex has always been important to them. About 54% of respondents said that they were happy with their current sex lives.We want to have sex, but sometimes we just aren’t into it. We all hated thinking that things were slowing down, and that they might slow down even more. Finally, someone suggested I meet with Esther Perel, author of , which explores many of the questions my friends and I were confronting – specifically, why couples who have been together for a very long time often can’t sustain a rich, enjoyable sexual life … Esther was particularly eager to find out because in her view, sex after 50 may be the best sex we’ll ever have.For sure, menopause can sometimes make sex uncomfortable, and our libido can drop off. Was I supposed to lock this door and throw away the key? First, she said, we had to address some long-held views about sex after 50 that may not be true.
Margaret Nachtigall, a reproductive endocrinologist in New York City, who shared some statistics from a study done by The National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior: A study of married couples found age and marital satisfaction to be the two variables most associated with amount of sex.
To find out how boomers sex lives have changed, we asked some people to share their personal stories.
After her breast cancer diagnosis, Sally Koslow found out that she needed to have a mastectomy.
It wasn’t exactly conducive to swinging from chandeliers.
During those early years, sex was focused more on a result (children), but that’s no longer the case.
Approximately 67% reported that their sex drive has decreased over the past 20 years.