Here are eight of the first steps: Nobody gets married thinking, "I sure hope we can get divorced someday!" Even if, by the time you split, the divorce was something you wanted, a divorce still represents a loss.Chances are, you have some very real considerations -- kids (if you're a parent), a job, and a budget (which may have been hurt by the divorce).But chances also are that although you might not be able to do whatever your fantasy is, there may be other changes that ARE within your reach.Maybe you realize that you'd like to move to a new city or even spend a year living in Paris.
Maybe it's trying a new sport, considering a different place of worship, or going back to college.
Meanwhile, Lisa and George both realize that the only thing that's certain about the future is that we never know what fate has in store for us.
You've signed the divorce papers, and the relationship you entered with so much hope is officially dissolved. Maybe you had been married for decades, maybe just a year or so. Maybe the divorce was your idea and maybe it was your partner's, or maybe you both agreed that separation was best.
"You might think that there must be something wrong with you if you couldn't make this relationship work," Alberti says.
"You have to work on getting confidence and faith in yourself and ability to believe in your own worth." This is also something you could pursue in therapy, or through Tip No.
Don't dwell on those feelings, but make room for them," Falk says. There is an empty space where something once filled it up, even if that something may not have been desirable." Don't tote that heavy baggage from your previous relationship into your new life.