Having trouble dating

Every person I’ve ever dated, including the man I married, I met in real life. Even if you know, for a fact, that you will never date any of your coworkers (which is probably a good thing), you never know who they might ask, from outside the office, to tag along. I don’t mean inviting yourself to whatever events aren’t “public,” but if you see that one of your Facebook friends is going to an art exhibit opening or a reading at the local bookstore, RSVP and go.Whether it was a bar, work (yes, bad idea, I know), or at one of the many media events that I used to frequent back in my social days (I’m exhausted just thinking about it! It's a great way to find out what's going on and to get slightly outside your comfort zone, without having to show up somewhere completely alone. Getting up and going out, especially this time of year, seems like cruel and unusual punishment, but if you’re going to meet someone IRL, you have to venture out into the real world.

I know it’s a scary thought — leaving your couch, taking off your sweatpants, putting your Netflix binging on pause, and going out to meet people — but that’s just how the world worked.

When you’re with your friends it can be intimidating for someone to come up to you, but when you roll solo it’s easier for someone who might want to get to know you to make their move. If you're shy about going out alone, bring a book or a journal at first, and take small steps to get comfortable with the feeling.

Consider trying not to look at your phone all night, and see what happens.

To put a hickey on her delectable neck during a friendly game of soccer is one thing.

To make hell freeze over and snatch a kiss is another. )Chronological reading order of the GROVER BEACH TEAM series:1.

Back when I used to drink like every day was my last day on earth, I was one of a dozen regulars at a couple bars, and it was a great way to meet people.

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