Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist in the Department of Psychology at Harvard University in his blog, the Psychology of Human Sexuality.
There are even more resources available beyond the information we’ve summarized in our post, and some excellent books have been written on the subject of being an older woman who is dating or wants to date a younger man.
Whether you're single again after the end of a long-term relationship or you've been around the block a few times still on the hunt for Mr. These strategies can help you develop your inner explorer to make dating after 50 a little less daunting: 1.
Confront your fears You're never too old to find love, but that's not a message gay men hear very often. After years of "working on ourselves" and fighting social prejudice to gain self-esteem, many of us struggle to keep it. The gay community's — OK, let's get real, mostly the gay male community's — ageism. Who'd want you when there's some 30-year-old hottie turning everyone's heads at the gym? Focus instead on being your best self, no matter what your age.
Another study published in the journal, Psychology of Women Quarterly, found women who are ten or more years older than their partner report more satisfaction and relationship commitment compared to women who are the same age or younger than their partner.“We don’t know for sure, but it may be because when the woman is older, it shifts the traditional heterosexual power dynamic toward greater equality.
We know from a lot of research that greater equality tends to make couples happier,” writes study author Dr.
For example, if you like the outdoors, join a gay hiking or walking group, and meet men while you get fresh air and exercise.
Focus on smaller parties, events centered on hobbies and interests, and volunteer opportunities.
Now it might be comforting to find a partner who can relate to your experiences and your outlook, and has the same pop culture references you do.
Then create a profile that reflects who are you, what you want and includes recent photos. Your date will wonder, "If he's not honest about his age, what other lies is he telling? Be self-aware, not rigid One advantage of age is self-awareness.
Don't post the online profile of Dorian Gray by showing off your shiny youth. When you know yourself better, you can quickly size up what you want in someone else.
It's also a good idea to ask your closest friends for regular feedback (yes, ask them to give you input on your actions and choices), so you don't get stuck in your ways. Realize you can be single and happy Hey, you don't have to tell me it's tough being gay, single and over 50.
It's not like gay subculture has given us lots of happily dating, older gay male role models.
Especially at this stage of life, why would you want a relationship that doesn't bring you happiness?