As those of you who regularly read the site know, I always like to put techniques and advice in perspective.
I am also a major proponent of the idea of "calibration", where you adjust technique and behavior based on responses and reactions from the other person.
You are still attracting and "seducing" your prospective date. It is how you should behave once you already know she is attracted to you and enough comfort has been established that she was willing to have sex with you.
Dating doesn’t mean you are dating or in a relationship, though a lot of the principles of the phase after attraction is established apply to both immediately after courtship and longer term dating/relationships.
Too often, dating advice meant for the courtship phase is used in the dating phase and vice versa. The courtship vs dating distinction is admittedly, down to semantics, so let me define them.I explained what courtship was and quoted Joshua Harris, chapter and verse. “I don’t think courtship is a smart idea,” my grandfather said.“How can you tell who you want to marry if you aren’t going out on dates? I ignored their advice on relationships, preferring to listen to the young people around me who were passionate advocates of courtship.Visits and comments poured in from all over the country about how to make courtship work and why it did not work. I’m talking the kind of couples who first kissed at their wedding were filing for divorce. The deal was that if we put up with the rules and awkwardness of courtship now we could avoid the pain of divorce later.Each year I waited for courtship to start working and for my homeschool friends to start getting married. The whole point of courtship was to have a happy marriage, not a high divorce rate.” my grandmother wondered every time the topic came up. They both obstinately held to the position that courtship was a foolish idea. As I grew older, I started to speak at homeschool conferences and events.