We all have disappointments, but the vast majority of us accept reality and move forward, perhaps in more fulfilling directions.
Even after an adult child’s rejection, you have the right to enjoy your life.
Reconciliation may eventually take place, but in the present, accepting what’s happened allows you to make the most of your life now.
Most of us have had to accept other disappointing realities during our lives: a loved one’s death, the inability to finish college due to other responsibilities, or an unrealized professional goal.
Be sure to experience your surroundings to the fullest, by taking notice. Perhaps recall moments from your morning that went well.
I’m glad I was able to make that telephone connection and cross the task off my list. Parents have known and loved their children for so long that forgiveness may be second nature – – or not. Because of the personal benefits, forgiveness is a gift you can give yourself. In a study published by National Institute of Health in 2011, researchers found that older adults (median age 66) who forgive others report higher levels of life satisfaction.
An adult child’s rejection may cause parents to look back critically at their parenting skills, even magnifying some incidents or interactions during the child’s growing up years as proof they did a poor job. Parents realize they have no control over their adult child’s actions. Three: Focus on the Good Take time out each day to consider the positive situations and good people in your life.Examples are loaning money that is not returned, doing favors for others that are not in the end, helpful, continuing toxic relationships because of guilt about being “cold hearted”.There is a dance in codependency that involves the intimate relationship between codependents and narcissistic types.To better understand codependency let me share my favorite codependent joke. In the afterglow one says to the other, “well it was good for you, how was it for me”?Codependents lack a healthy relationship with self.We also go through a similar bereavement process during a break up as when someone has died.