All too often I encounter parents who are checked out when it comes to their daughter’s relationship with her boyfriend.
The girl is venturing without mature direction and acting on her own instincts and going places emotionally and physically that are not good for her, yet the parents stand idly by.
As parents we need to help our daughters maintain limits and boundaries while they are young.
What are the three most important personality traits that you think he needs to have?
What kinds of school activities do you want him to be involved in? Then, encourage her to measure every potential suitor by her list.
But even so, I think that encouraging teens to think about the qualities they are looking for in a date and to write down their answers will also help them think more logically about the people they get involved with romantically.
While my parents and I didn’t have this conversation when I was in high school, we have had it often in the years since.
Even as I was trying to stop Jackie from dating, it was my hope that when she did start to date she would have strong standards for a boy.