You may also want to consider guidelines like not sleeping with people in your friend group or not sleeping with people who are looking for relationships.
Right from the get-go, tell your sexual partners that you’re only interested in casual sex and have no desire to be in a relationship.
If you don’t want to get into a relationship right now, don’t do anything relationship-y!
Don’t go out on dates, don’t spend the night, don’t send cutesy text messages saying “thinking of you.” Of course you want to treat your sexual partner with kindness and respect, but don’t do the types of things you would do with a boyfriend.
You said that you’ve had the tendency to get into relationships with people after having sex with them.
A: Casual sex is a slippery little beast, isn’t it?
Casual sex is sort of like that great idea you have for an art project -—you can picture it perfectly in your head, but when you actually sit down to do it, it never looks exactly how you thought it would.
I guess I'm wondering, if I don't think that's what I want to do anymore, are there any ways to protect myself and my feelings when I'm trying out casual sex and dating more than one person at once?
I'm new at this, and I want to make sure I'm taking care of myself.
Now, onto this week’s topic: How to protect your feelings when you're having casual sex. I'm not looking to jump back into another one, but I have recently started hooking up with a friend and dating other guys.